Trying to choose between an elopement and a destination wedding? Here’s how to decide what fits your relationship, budget, and vision best—according to photographers.
What’s the Difference Between a Destination Wedding and an Elopement?
Destination Wedding
A curated celebration in a scenic location—usually includes guests, multi-day events, and a more traditional wedding structure.
Elopement
An intimate experience focused entirely on the couple—flexible, personal, and often guest-free or very small.
Related: How to Plan an All-Inclusive Destination Wedding (From Canada)
Destination Wedding – Pros and Cons
Pros
A Shared Vacation with Your Favourite People
It’s not just a wedding—it’s an experience. Multi-day events create lifelong memories with your inner circle.
Built-In Vibe, Less Décor Stress
Resort settings like beaches, jungles, or historic towns offer natural beauty—no need to spend thousands on decor.
Excuse for a Smaller Guest List
Destination weddings naturally trim the guest count. It's a polite way to keep things intimate without offending.
Photography Dreamland
Golden light, tropical backdrops, and beachfront ceremonies? Yes, please. Destination weddings often yield stunning images.
Cons
Travel Costs and Logistics
Flights, accommodations, and group bookings add complexity—for you and your guests.
Fewer People Will Be Able to Attend
Some guests may decline due to finances, schedules, or accessibility.
You May Have Less Control
Many destination weddings rely on pre-set resort packages. If you're after full customization, this might feel limiting.
Related: What to Expect from Your Resort’s Wedding Coordinator
Related: Why You Should Do a Day-After Session
Elopement – Pros and Cons
Pros
Freedom and Flexibility
Elopements can happen anywhere: mountaintops, forests, city hall. There are no rules—just the two of you and your vision.
Ultra-Intimate and Stress-Free
No timelines, no managing guests, no waiting for dinner service. Just you, your partner, and a photographer you trust.
Budget-Friendly (Most of the Time)
Fewer people usually means lower costs, but keep in mind travel and vendor fees still apply.
Incredible Photo Opportunities
You can time your elopement around the light, location, and season. Many couples opt for “just us” elopements in breathtaking places.
Related: Tofino Elopement Guide - Coming soon
Cons
Can Feel Isolating
Some couples miss the joy of celebrating with loved ones—or face pressure from family who expected a bigger event.
Less Recognition from Others
You might not get the same celebratory energy from your wider circle, especially older relatives who view weddings as public milestones.
Planning Can Still Be Required
While simpler, elopements still involve permits, location scouting, attire, and timelines—especially if you're traveling.
How to Decide: Elopement vs. Destination Wedding
Ask yourselves:
- Do we want people there with us—or focus on just each other?
- Are we willing to coordinate international travel?
- Do we want a group trip or a short, private ceremony?
- What kind of photos do we want to look back on?
If your dream day is about meaningful connection in a stunning place, either option can work beautifully. It just depends on how you define “meaningful.”
Final Thoughts (From a Photographer’s Perspective)
What makes a wedding memorable isn’t the size or the setting—it’s how authentic the experience felt. Whether you choose to elope in the Rockies or celebrate with 30 guests on the beach, the best decision is the one that feels true to you.
Wherever you end up saying “I do,” bring a photographer who gets your story and can document it with care.
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